Why don’t you ask for Help? Why didn’t you call me? You should have called me! Sound familar? These are all well known lines that I have heard more times than I’d like to count. Everyone wants to know why I won’t ask for help. Every single mom I have spoke with recently has said that they struggle with asking for help just as much as I do. Why is that? Why do we continue to struggle after we are told to reach out?
- We don’t want to be let down.
Let’s be honest, you have offered to help someone or said “call if you need anything” The moment that phone rings and help is requested
we can’t provide the assitance needed. Being a mom I have been there. I have asked for help and been shut down. This makes me nervous to ask for help. I don’t want to be let down by those who have. offered help.
Society has this man shaming trend. Everyone is a better parent than everyone else.
“What was he doing awake by himself? He doesnt wake you up first?”
“NO Suzy, I let my three year old Run rampid every day of the week and he has to fend for himself.”
Maybe if we stop judging or being condescending to every mom who has a bad day or a parenting mishap there would be more of us who ASK for help.
This is a big one for me and some people may call me crazy for Feeling this way, however it is 100% Valid! Look at our news headlines now days! I am terrified that others will not accept or understand my children.I am so scared they will not understand or love my Special
special needs son the way our family does and that terrifies me.
I hare felt guilty in so many ways. Guilty for leaving my kids behind. Guilty for in convincing some one. Guilty for not being
able to handle it all. Guilty for being tired. We just feel guilty.
There are many times I have locked myself in my bathroom and cried because I did not want to be seen as weak. When people look at me I don’t want them to think that I wasn’t strong enough to be a mom.
These are very real reasons why we don’t call you. These are the driving force behind our lonely struggles. If you see an
overwhelmed mom and her struggle don’t wait for her to ask for your help, because she never will. When you see that struggle say
“let me help you, what do you need, how can I help you during this time.”
Because you’ll never hear “I need help”